My husband is wheelchair bound and has Neuropathy , some Parkinson's and a mild dementia. He cannot get up fast enough to urinate so he lives in Depends. At times he loses bowel movements as well. We could be in a car, restaurant, wherever....so I always have a change of clothes and soap and a washcloth. It's a mess! People have told me to get help. Help??? He wakes up all hours of the night completely drenched with sweat and urine. Even with lots of plastic and a large pad, the sheet is still wet. I have to change him from head to foot along with the bed. If I had someone coming in the morning, I would not need that person. He or she would be sitting around for 2 , 3, or 4 hours.....whatever the schedule is. I try to explain that to people but they do not understand. It's expensive to pay someone 20 or 25 dollars per hour to have them sit around. I take one day at a time and whenever it gets too much for me, I will consider a placement for him. I do pray ever day and try to abide by my religious beliefs. I still remember the day we were married in 1956 and promised "for better or worse" in our marriage vows.