My mother is 85 years old & is:
Mid stage / dementia --
She Recognizes family / responds to questions / can converse ( very slow response & processing but comprehensible ) .. Is very even tempered Emotional /flat like/ & very compliant / loves her home & pets / has her humor/ Is able to perform basic grooming practices/ uses bathroom/ Has extreme osteoarthritis in eight knee (knee replacement in other knee) because of pain requires assistance in ambulatory areas (wheel chair) -Is able to stand from sitting position--& sit from standing /.
**Needs assistance in getting in & out of bed....
-- osteoarthritis -compression fractures in her back --led to Xtreme pain & inabilty to move --hospitalization. (Kyphoplasty procedure completed to treat back pain!) but nothing can do about severe knee-
Her stay in hospital lead to: 8 days
And Now on:
antibiotic (aspiration pneumonia)
Heart /beta blocker & blood thinner...
Tramadol pain med --.
She was sent from hospital to skill nurse rehab--
But? Her osteoporosis is so advanced at this point that - can only complete minimal level (exercise)... W/O fracture or increased swelling /Joint -back pain...
She wants to go home-- AND? She does have 2 CNA s hired for in-home service along with me coming In for couple days /wk too....
I feel her wishes need to be honored! And if she wants to go home and there is full time assistance in her home setting --- then? She should spend at least another year peacefully living in her own home! ( lived In for 45 years) ..
I don't know ? What kind of "forces" I am up against tho?
Brother & sister - believe not a good idea for her to go home--- And that her dementia mental degeneration could go on on on and also leave her penniless (paying for in-home care) ...... She has been left with savings enough to def cover at minimum a year with lots left
Over --. Doesn't the dignity of her -- and how she wants to spend some of the last days of her life Count? ..
Some family ? Fear she may go on on on and drain all the family trust .... And say ? She would be cared about and for If she stays in rehab & moves into full nursing home (part of facility that she is already now in..)!
She IS declining. But?
So much better and more content inner own just home ?
Can I insist her wishes be honored ?
Docs ? Listen ? Or siblings?
Try to/-? Get a medical POA from he now?
My sister is POA finances ?
I dunno ???
Severe osteoarthritis (knee & back scoliosis).