I posted a question about having to move my mother against her wishes (but with her Doctor’s wishes). And I truly appreciate all of the help, support and guidance I received.
She has now moved into the residence and my oh my it has been difficult. The moment she was told that she is now living at the Assisted living residence that she chose she started to walk to the car to leave. “i’m Going home!”. The employees and my brother stopped her from leaving. My brother and I managed to get her involved in a few activities that she seemed to enjoy. The moment an activity is over she is looking for her purse and the door out.
We had set up her suite using a lot of her furniture and it looks quite nice. We have tried to calm her by saying to just try it out for a little while. Like a great full service resort. Give it a chance. If it doesn’t work then we will see what we can all do. This seems to calm her a little bit but of course every noise is horrible, the bed is uncomfortable (even though the bed and sheets are hers from her home)etc.
I am currently typing this up in a recliner in her suite where she is trying to fall asleep. I am hoping that. By staying with her tonight, she will see a familiar face in the morning and feel less dead set against this move. I feel bad because we tricked her into coming here. And I feel bad because she truly is hating everything about living here. If I had never moved her we would be home right now. Albeit with me stressed and worried with all the what if’s... want if tonight is the night she wanders, what if she gets sick, etc.
She is in mid stage Alzheimer’s and is such a sweet woman but feels trapped and tricked.
Did I make a huge error? Will she adjust to Assisted living? Or am I stuck sleeping in her recliner every night.
Oh this whole thing is so horrible.
thank you all in advance for your help, advise and personal stories.