Father is confused at times and forgets where all monies are going. To the point he called a CPA for advice. How can deal with this, There is no other family memebers who will take over POA. HELP!
My Moms bank Statement was my proof. It showed her money going in and coming out. I paid everything by check. If I bought anything out of pocket for her, I kept the receipts and reimbursed myself once a month by check. I put the receipts in an envelope with the ck # I used and the date.
Keep good records and you have nothing to worry about. If you are good at spreadsheets, make one up once a month showing how his money gets spent. Starting with his SS and any pension in the left column and expenses in the right.
There is a Teepa Snow video on YouTube that "role plays" this very similar scenario and how to interact with a loved one who is having this delusion. I'm not sure which of the following videos it's in but I know it's in one of them.
You're in it for the long haul so best to educate yourself on how to better engage with your LO with cognitive impairment (that as you describe it appears very similar to dementia behaviors). Here's what I've found helpful:
Phrases to Learn for Caregivers (Teepa Snow, dementia expert) https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KKejCymVS2Q
Dementia Communication Strategies with Joan Lunden & Teepa Snow https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8OubTWj995Q
Understanding Symptoms and Behaviors of Dementia - Teepa Snow Webinar https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0tzJGUxio8M
How Dementia Affects Language Skills (Teepa Snow) https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0BlZF_4EKp4
Common Issues With Dementia (Teepa Snow) https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=u5QMeQpkPhA
4 Common Dementia Caregiver Mistakes (start 3 minutes into the video) https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ymp2SgFhNtw
And also:
Rules for engaging your LO with dementia:
1) Agree, do not argue 2) Divert, do not attempt to reason 3) Distract, do not shame 4) Reassure, do not lecture 5) Reminisce, do not ask “Do you remember…?” 6) Repeat, do not say “I told you” 7) Do what they can do, don’t say “you can’t” 8) Ask, do not demand 9) Encourage, do not condescend 10) Reinforce, never force
Keep good records and you have nothing to worry about. If you are good at spreadsheets, make one up once a month showing how his money gets spent. Starting with his SS and any pension in the left column and expenses in the right.
You're in it for the long haul so best to educate yourself on how to better engage with your LO with cognitive impairment (that as you describe it appears very similar to dementia behaviors). Here's what I've found helpful:
Phrases to Learn for Caregivers (Teepa Snow, dementia expert)
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KKejCymVS2Q
Dementia Communication Strategies with Joan Lunden & Teepa Snow
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8OubTWj995Q
Understanding Symptoms and Behaviors of Dementia - Teepa Snow Webinar
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0tzJGUxio8M
How Dementia Affects Language Skills (Teepa Snow)
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0BlZF_4EKp4
Common Issues With Dementia (Teepa Snow)
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=u5QMeQpkPhA
4 Common Dementia Caregiver Mistakes (start 3 minutes into the video)
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ymp2SgFhNtw
And also:
Rules for engaging your LO with dementia:
1) Agree, do not argue
2) Divert, do not attempt to reason
3) Distract, do not shame
4) Reassure, do not lecture
5) Reminisce, do not ask “Do you remember…?”
6) Repeat, do not say “I told you”
7) Do what they can do, don’t say “you can’t”
8) Ask, do not demand
9) Encourage, do not condescend
10) Reinforce, never force