The national median cost of assisted living is $3,495 a month. Medicaid won't pay for assisted living, only for an aide in the home, which has recently become much more difficult now that 3 ADLs are required to be eligible and there is a longer wait time for processing (as in months) than before because of the new 2.5 year lookback. The other option for coverage by Medicaid is a nursing home. I have a parent who is 95 and there is no other money beyond social security at this point, which leaves a $1495 gap for assisted living. I can't assist with that financially. He has diabetes and is losing his ability to walk, uses a walker, can't feel his legs (but still drives!). He has nerve pain in his hands now too. He lives alone in the middle of nowhere. Those medic alert buttons don't work out there, no cell service. Anyway, at this point he would not be eligible for a Medicaid aide since he can do everything on the ADL list - just barely. I really don't want to move in with him, but I don't see another option. My husband and I live about 2 hours from him now. Where he lives there is very little support for seniors, it's the middle of nowhere. You cannot find a housekeeper, for example. I go up there once a week to clean. And I cannot imagine helping him with the bathroom, if it comes to that. The house is in horrible shape, very neglected, ugly inside. Needs a huge amount of expensive work. And I hate it there, so I am very worried about eventually (probably within the next 6 months) having to move in there. We live in a one bedroom in the city - moving to a two bedroom is not an option and he would not come here anyway. I have two siblings living within one mile of him who cannot help in any way, financially or otherwise. I only mention them because I am sure to get questions about siblings - so just consider me an only child. We own his home, having bailed him out of the loan he had on it, so he cannot sell that and we hope to get our money back eventually after putting a lot of work into the house. Any advice? I'm stuck with having to move in, I believe.