What is the best way to find a male caretaker for my husband? He is not able to walk and is losing his energy and strength.

You can say if someone isn’t a good fit in your husband’s life. I would explain why you feel this way.

It should be a legitimate reason. If a person is capable of doing a satisfactory job, encourage your husband to give them a fair shot at helping.

Our first caregiver for Dad was a guy, the agency thought he would be a good fit, and we agreed. However, when Mom got home from rehab we let him go. After a few months we realized Mom needed help with Dad, and the agency sent a lady.. she was great with both of them,, not "running over" Moms life and "rules", and Dad actually got on better with her. Now I will say she was a sturdy country gal,, if she had been a tiny slip of a thing she may not have worked out as well!

Yes, you can request a male or female from an agency. They may not be able to fill your request right away but could certainly hire one just for you if you agree to a reasonable amount of hours weekly, like 30, then it's worth their effort. FYI I requested a caregiver with no accent because of my very elder aunts' hearing and cognitive issues -- they just couldn't understand the aids who had accents (FYI my own grandmother barely spoke English, so it was only due to practical reasons and no other). I also let the agency (or other services) know that my one aunt with very advanced dementia might say some very unsavory things to people of color and so those helpers must be warned and can choose not to be subjected to that. To date, no one has ever turned down the assignment. I hope you find the right guy for your husband!

I don't know that you can specify what you want from an agency in term of race, creed, color or gender.You CAN explain what you need, and what you need is someone who is strong enough to be able to help a man of blah blah pounds to be able to walk, a man who has at present almost no strength in his limbs. You can also explain that your husband, as a male, would prefer a male due to privacy needs with toileting and etc. But I think that is about as far as you can go. It is almost kind of like combat army duty at this point. You cannot stipulate that someone be male or female, but you can stipulate they must be capable of carry, lifting, and having other abilities.
I am uncertain about all this and I would just discuss it with the agency you are using or the Social Worker who is getting you caretaker assigned.