My two parents have had challenging problems/health problems for over 10 years now. My 83 year old ex military father is addicted to controlling my 79 year old, last stage Alzheimer's mother and both are in a privately run Assisted living about 1 or more hours away from me. Now my mother refuses to bathe, falls and has to have help in standing/walking most times and the Assisted Living threatens regularly but verbally to kick her out for violent behaviors towards staff during shower times. My father thinks it is my job to fix everything and find an immediate better place for both to live. He calls (using a staff cell phone) and says that I will be very, very sorry if I don't take care of finding a better place asap! I believe he is not getting the fact that my mother has entered the 7th stage of a terrible disease and is angry he can no longer control her or anyone else. My father sees Hospice 2x week. My mother does not qualify yet. Also, my father has stated to me that he will end his and her life if things get worse. What should I be doing?