This person has been failing (and in denial about it) for many years until an accident forced the decision to get them into care. They now have a diagnosis of Alzheimer's. Currently they're in assisted living, but soon may need a nursing home. They have a will already; the POA has been enacted; we're doing all we can. Yet this person is constantly asking us to allow control of their own money, checkbook, credit card, etc. NOT possible and not safe! We do dispense cash, but that's not good enough. How can we give our relative some dignity without giving them access to things they cannot and should not handle?