About a month ago, I got mom from India to stay with me for a few months and then get the green card process started. But no matter what I do to make her happy here, mom is pining away for her AL place , her friends and routine in India. I think she has lost weight here too and I feel bad for taking her away from her familiar surroundings.
I guess I will take her back to India and abandon the green card idea for now - just feel so sad about the whole thing. I worry about her when she's in India and then when she stays with me here, we just argue and fight about her going back, her lack of hygiene etc etc. she doesn't brush or take a bath daily but then smells. Mom says I yell at her ...I do raise my voice when she asks me the same thing for the 10th time daily..
I guess the guilt in bringing her here made me write this post.
(((Some background: Mom lives in a AL in India which works only for people mentally sharp. The staff provides only light housekeeping. So Mom forgets to turn the washing machine on, leaves leftover food (this led to rats) out, forgets to flush the toilet well etc etc.
Btw, I was planning to get expensive private insurance if she got the green card.)))
Thanks for listening.....