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My dad is 88 years old. He is suffering from Alzheimer's disease. His wife (my stepmother) is suffering from Dementia. He has the good side and she has the mean side. My stepsister is Power Of Attorney. My dad has 6 siblings including myself. We have jobs and families so the only time we can spend with him is on weekends. Plus we live further away and the stepsister lives next door. She is caring for him because she does not work. The thing we are concerned about is in the past she has cared for people who were sick and collected on their life insurance and we feel she is doing our dad the same way. My dad is 6 ft tall and used to weigh 175 lbs. He now weighs 126 lbs. She lets him sleep until noon and then will give him a biscuit to eat. He receives meals on wheels but that is usually given to him at dinner. He then goes back to bed at 4 pm. When we give our dad something to eat, he acts like he is starving. His wife is mean to him because he will follow her around. She says he's lazy because he can't do yard work etc. He doesn't know how anymore. The stepsister is ruling everything here. She is always attacking us when we go visit stating we never do anything. He is all we have left and we are at a loss as how to handle this. I thing my stepsister is a grave robber and just biding her time until he passes. What would happen if I report this?

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She is POA to both I assume. We just found out. No I don't know if she is on his life insurance but she does have access to his social security check and her moms. I am grateful that she is taking care of them but she is griping about it all the while. I know for a fact that she took care of people who were on their death beds and ended up with sums of money. It seems to me that she may pay the bills etc. but may be pocketing the rest for her benefit such as remodeling her home. I may check in to the guardianship.
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No I am not afraid to talk to her. It turns in to a screaming match. Then her mom gets in it and it is just a mess. We have offered solutions to try and get her help with them both. My dad is a veteran so he could receive home health care but we have to get information from her and she is not participating. We have thought about having a family meeting to discuss.
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You can report your concerns and they will investigate. Of course, you are at the mercy of how good of a job they do. Without ruling that out, I'd seek advice from an Elder Law attorney and explore Guardianship. Even if you don't want to be the Guardian, you can file and ask that the court appoint someone who is proper. That way, the Guardian has to answer to the court and there is Court oversight.

Is this person the POA for your step mother and your dad? Also, is it a Durable POA? If not, it may not remain enforceable, after the person become incompetent. These are questions an attorney in their jurisdiction may be able to answer.

Did your dad name her as beneficiary to his life insurance before he became incompetent? Lots of issues that I would explore with an attorney.

I'd try to consider if there is a logical explanation for what you have observed.  Some people with dementia forget they have already eaten and are always hungry. Despite eating well, they may still lose weight.  So, it's hard to say if anything is amiss.  Are you able to communicate with your dad's doctor?  I would think the doctor would be alarmed if dad's health was declining.  
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Are you afraid to talk to your sister? Have you offered solutions to her? You are not there day to day to really judge that. Why not have a family meeting and discuss this first before calling in elder abuse. 
It's hard taking care of two elderly people. Try the nice way - be part of the solution. 
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