My husband and I have been taking care of my mom. She has mild (?) dementia. She has slowly done less and less for herself. It is almost like she likes the attention and is lazy. That sounds so awful. She is super thin and frail and the lack of movement has made it so walking unassisted is difficult.
The question is even though we have been tag teaming her to help her not fall. (Trying to be near, setting up ways she can call for us, etc) she continues to go to the bathroom without us. I say mom you are going to fall again. We are right here and it just doesn’t seem to sink in. Why are we rearranging our lives only to have her be like this? I don’t want her in a nursing home. I just want to know how to navigate this issue so she doesn’t fall and break something. She says she doesn’t want to bother us and we say we’d rather you have us help you than break something.
She is in the bathroom a lot because of IBS and has just started having to wear depends. She cries because she’s embarrassed but I need to help clean her up. I try and help her keep her privacy and dignity.