I just started caring for my mom and I am trying to keep my job. My sister lives 30 miles away and hasn't even invited my mom over to her house yet even though she has been in this area for 3 months. I am doing the vast majority of the work, cleaning, cooking, appointments, shopping, washing, exercise, etc. Sister has come over twice to go to the doctor and dentist and once to take her shopping. I have taken Mom to doctor 8 times and I have taken her shopping more than I can count. I need a break. Should I ask her to take mom at least for the day to her house to hang out so I can have time to myself? She refuses to let her stay overnight at her house. She gives some lame excuse about stairs, but my mom wouldn't have to use those stairs. She hasn't even invited her over for lunch. What is the deal? I am too tired to write anymore. I really need help. This is killing me emotionally, physically and financially while my sister just goes on her merry way taking trips, classes, doing everything and anything she wants. Frankly I hate her. I don't think I can get passed any of this. I just imagine being dead all the time. There is no way out. I hate my family.