My father-in-law lives independently but has visiting nurses and nurse practioners come in to see him. We have noticed snarky behavior and rudeness when dealing with his main visiting nurse. She is just "honey pie" all over him but treats us pretty hateful. I have no clue what my father-in-law has told her since he never got over "his baby" leaving the nest at 30 and getting married almost 20 years ago.
I thought things would be different with an agency. My grandmother had an independent care giver and she started putting up photos of her family on my grandmother's walls (did not live there with her, just ran errands, took her to the doctor, etc). We had it out when we discovered a registered sex offender had befriended my grandmother and she told everyone except the family how horrible it was. When I asked why she didn't tell us, she said, "well, I just didn't know what you would say." I told her she had always called us on everything. We were a six hour round trip away. Found out later that she told my grandmother that she needed to leave her the house.
So...do these caregivers think they are so awesome that family cannot do without them so they can treat people like dirt? Has anyone else had this problem?