He has sufficient funds, and is adamant that he stay in his home. We feel that his wishes must be respected, and have tried to make it possible, but he needs more help. He does very little for himself. Reduction in personal hygiene, taking medications, and eating are major issues that we are faced with, not to mention personal safety. .We don't want to spend his money on something that he is so opposed to. My brother and his family take neither physical nor emotional responsibility for his care. How can we help my father understand that he needs to pay for extra help so that we can fulfill his wishes.