They say a DPOA,is to designate an agent to engage in certain functions. This can be anything from handling personal finances to making life and death decisions to healthcare decisions.As an example, general power of attorney provides agents with broad powers that permit them to conduct a variety of transactions..
With that said above,I have not yet found the purpose of this POA to help me do these caring & finance duties.I'm beginning to think that the only purpose of being a POA is in case something happen's financial institutes have a finger to point too!Or to come after if issues who to point the blame.The true fact is,if there isn't a POA.There's knowone to point the finger too.
I'm my Aunt's DPOA.I'm my Aunt's visiting Caregiver.I am "Both".My Aunt lives alone in her home as she demands to do.My Aunt shows signs of dementia as forgetting many simple tasks.As examples,Burning frying pans when cooking,Forgetting to take her morning medications,Losing & misplacing items,gets family members names confused.
The biggest issue I found she has is not making it to the bathroom in time.This is my main concern.Her house smells of Urine.Her not making it to the bathroom on time is a everyday issue.Not only Urines her self all the time ,she poops/Feces her self all the time.I tell my Aunt all the time she needs to buy a tolet chair and a bed pan.Depends don't work if you forget to ware them.My Aunt refuses to buy these things to help with these issues.With her refusing to spend a dime for her needs I feel that these are signs of incompatent.She has the money to buy these things that she needs but,refuses to do so.I don't have the money to buy these things she needs.She demands to live alone in her home.In order for her to keep living alone in her home is gonna require her to buy these things.She refuses to spend her money for her needs.She's legally compatent to do what she desires.I can't force her to buy a thing.
Here's the problem I have with this DPOA,
As I'm her DPOA.I'm not allowed to buy a bed pan or a tolet chair for my Aunt using her funds?I can't simple,take her check book and write out a check to walmart to buy a bed pan without my Aunt's permission?If I'm my Aunt's DPOA.Why do I need her permission?I am her attroney in fact as stated on the POA.
What I find strange about this POA is,I'm allowed to cash her checks for her.I can draw money out of her bank account when she desires me to get her some spending money.I'm able to use her debt bank card to pay for her grocerys.Or pay her bills.
But,I can't use her funds to buy her a tolet chair,life alert,or a simple bed pan without her permission?If It's required that I must have her permission to spend her money?I see no purpose in this DPOA.
My Aunt refuses to spend any of her money for her needs and she is not making the right decisions.If your not able to make it to the bathroom in time?A tolet chair or bed pan would be nice I would think.And would help solve the problem.She fell 3 times in one week while alone in her home.She needs life alert or a live in caregiver.She refuses all.
I personally feel she needs to be in a nurcing home not living alone at 88 yrs old alone.
I feel this Durable POA I have should be able to override her permission in making the right decisions.But,since I am required to have her permission to spend any of her money on her needs.This DPOA to me seems pointless and worthless to have.I was told this DPOA I have took effect immediately when my Aunt signed it.But yet they say,a POA doesn't take effect until the client is incompatent by a doctor.Well,she may never be told by a doctor she's incompatent.Mean's until then this DPOA is worthless for me to help her now.
If I was on my Aunt's bank account as "Joint".I wouldn't have a problem using her funds to buy these things she needs.But,I'm not joint like I found that many POAs are joint to their clients accounts.
I feel in order for me to help my Aunt.I need to have this POA removed.Should I have this POA removed?
Her doctor allready has her Living Will information.I see no reason for this DPOA.It's not helping me what so ever I'm finding.In fact ,it's causing more problems for me then good having this POA.This DPOA by right's should give me control of her funds but,it don't.I feel the only reason for a POA is so bill collectors has someone they can go to .I sure don't want to be stuck with her bills being her POA at her passing.
(Should I have this Durable POA removed?)And just become Joint on her bank account?
I need advice?I'm on my last straw on this.