I am the live in caregiver for my 88 year old mom who has Dementia/Alzheimer's, COPD, Parkinson, and have been doing this for 6 years. The 2 siblings live on the opposite coast and have little to do with their mother with one not having come back once to see her mother. I have selected an attorney but I have on a couple of occasions put together a list of questions about how things would be handled after the passing as the 2 siblings are 2/3 of a living trust deed on the home.
I have already agreed to the hourly rate for this attorney; but there seems to be a complete lack of wanting to answer legitimate questions and this considering the 2 people we will be dealing with. I want to be proactive.
One previous attorney stated he doesn't deal with family issues and he has been my parents attorney for years.
Have others come up against this and how have you handled it? I have the POA, Health Proxy, Executor and would be grateful to all for their feedback. Honestly, I know it may be a pain in the butt, but I want to be able to sleep at night.