My Father has dementia. His long-term companion of 20 years has POA and has been controlling his finances for four years. During that time he (she actually did this) purchased a house that has a mortgage in her neighborhood. He has a 401(k) and a savings account, VA benefits and Social Security. I was removed from being a POA two years ago when I questioned his and her decision about purchasing an additional house because I thought that the money should be used for his long-term care. Now I find out that she's using the POA to create a trust should the family be concerned? The family is basically kept in the dark about everything we know nothing about his accounts now and she is his primary care giver as she lives six houses from him and this was their agreement for his care. Two days ago she told me that she was creating a trust and told me that I was to be trustee so I could pay all the bills and also she requested that I take full responsibility for his health care and place him in a facility. I don't know what to do I'm out of state and I don't have POA for his healthcare. Also, he has dementia but doesn't want to leave his home. I think that since she has POA for his healthcare and she sees him every day that she should be the one that is discussing that with him. At this point I'm afraid to become involved with the whole situation. What should I do?