Not going to the funeral, is it disrespectful to not attend?
Hi, all. Thank goodness for this forum, it has helped me through a lot. This is the first time I'm asking a question. Two years ago, my Mom, now 88, had a devastating stroke. I've been by her side, from the moment she had the stroke, through attempts at therapy, and finally here to hospice. I have considered it my joy to honor my mother, to be with her to keep our spirits up through thick and thin. and escort her out of this world. I've been told, no less than 3 times since the stroke that she only has a week to live, and now without notice from a medical personal, I sense that she is letting me know that it's time. She has stopped eating, long stares, and circulation is bad. I will be with Mother every moment until she passes to make sure she knows I'm with her. Having said all that, and having been the main caregiver, I dread going to the funeral. There will be relatives there that made my journey as a caregiver living hell at times. I also believe that once the soul leaves the body that the person is truly gone (or all around us.) Is it disrespectful to not attend the funeral? I will, no doubt, be inconsolable when Mom dies, but the thought of being around the very relatives that offered more bullying than advice or help during the difficult times is something I don't think I can put myself through. Thoughts? Thanks.