Husband going for heart cath tomorrow. This month is the 5 year anniversary of my mom's death. I am terrified of getting into another caregiver situation. The marriage hasn't been good even though it has been 46 years. Just last week, I was consolidating my possessions and looking for another place to live (unbeknownst to him). Now, he has been diagnosed with a heart blockage that, minimally, may require stenting or, worse, heart bypass surgery. He was already difficult with which to live - verbally and emotionally abusive. I just don't know if I have it in me to be his caregiver. Our two kids are too busy to even visit, much less help out. Mentally, he has started slipping - not to the point of requiring POA - but denies it. He refuses to do a will or POA. Oh, he is 66 and I am 63, both retired. I just need a hug and what to expect life to be like after stent or bypass.