I recently discovered that she has started an online relationship with someone whom she believes "wants her" for her beauty ....age is not an issue in love .....ugh. This person created an identity on Facebook and lured my mother in with calling her honey and sweetheart, all to begin asking her for gift cards.....the first request, an Itunes gift card. What?! My mother who is 84, will not believe me when I explained to her the dangers of social media and that this is a scam. She continued to contact the person. I have now had to take her tablet from her. She is very angry and thinks I have no right to be angry with her. She continually sells me out to people telling them how I am getting her into trouble, etc. "spoiling her fun"....I realized after reading the comments about the narcissistic personality , this is who she is. I feel so hopeless at trying to have a decent , real relationship with her. She is in assisted living in a lovely facility...but says they don't have any "entertainment" so she is bored. I appreciate the responses that I read to create boundaries and pull away emotionally. I just have the hardest time reconciling how to care for her with how irritatingly needy she is. I realize I am venting here........ just hoping for encouragement from others who know what it is like to be in this kind of no win relationship. She has abandoned her children for men, all of our lives. And with no real acknowledgement of the damage she has done. Help!