I'm so stressed! My husband and I moved my mom from out of state to stay with us until she recovered from surgery. She ended up living with us. We remodeled half our home for her comfort. We didn't ask for rent. She just gives me $200.00 a month. That's all I asked for. She doesn't have to pay for transportation to and from doctors appointments (I take her). She has enough funds to take care of herself also. She was paying off her credit cards the first year she moved in and only gave me $30.00 - $60.00 dollars a month. I had to ask for $200.00. Inconsiderate and ungrateful. I'm retired and so is my husband. He still likes to work and has been working full time. He's 74 and I'm 58. my mom is 86. three months ago I helped her revise her Will. I added sticky notes to help her see what was taken out and what was added.
I gave her the document and she took time to look over it.
One of the things I told her I added was my husband. He would be the one to get her back home if something should happen to me. He's the only one that could do it now that she's here. Once she saw his name she got this thing in her head that he was trying to get me to add his name as a beneficiary. All the time she had the document she never said anything to me about the notes. She only told me she wanted to go to a lawyer to look over her Will. I was happy. It would help me to also know what I needed to do since she was here with us. Long term care, bank etc. Well, I took her to an Elder lawyer and the lawyer told us her Will was fine the way it is. She suggested other things too. After the lawyer, there was doctors appointments, visiting the bank, blood work, picking up the grands from school making sure we all ate!! Then my mom tells me she wants the documents I revised for her.
The thing was, my mom had in her head that my husband and I were trying to add his name in her Will to get money! She told me she couldn't sleep and it's affecting her health! She told me that my husband wrote a note on the document saying he wanted to be added to her Will!!
I didn't give her the document fast enough when she asked so, she thought I was changing the document and taking out what she THOUGHT was written in it. I don't have time for this mess. This coming from my mother made me so upset! I was shaking!! I told her we really need to talk! I went and got my husband. She changed her voice where she sounded so clam. After she told my husband what she thought she saw, he immediately told her he has no clue what she's talking about and he he would never do anything like that. He doesn't need anything from her!! He asked her to show him the document where it says this and she looked through it and couldn't find it. He slept on that and couldn't sleep. He told me we have done to much to be accused of something like this. He went back to talk to her the next day and wanted to clear the air. She still made excuses and talked about this note!! He lost it!! He told her, he brought her here and he could tell she didn't want him to help her with her business in the beginning so, he left it alone. He told her maybe it would be best if she moved back home. Everything she loved is there so it would be better for her to be there. She couldn't say anything. So, she called my sister and my sister called me. I told my sister (Younger) she would be better off back home regardless if she sold her house or not. She has the funds to take care of herself. Even if it's a small senior apartment. My sister told me she would always have a place back home and she'll talk to her daughter and make arrangements. My sister never called me back. My sister doesn't want her back home that's why she didn't call me back after almost two weeks. Things have calmed down but it's still that THING in the air. My husband and I feel so uncomfortable in our home. He told my mom that too. My mom always has to be right to the point she'll try to distract you to avoid saying she was wrong. What should I do?