My MIL is 65 years old. She has always been a heavy drinker but a hard worker who LOVES her cats AND my husband! Last year she was struck by a car and broke her wrist, she was out of work for a while but eventually went back, not long after she was drunk and fell into the bathtub and broke her hip. She seemed to be doing well after the surgery but there were a "few" things she could not do herself so my husband would go there a few times a week (she likes her privacy and gets angry with visits more than a few times a week) to do things around the house for her. Within the past few months she has stopped cleaning her house (totally unlike her) and she doesn't care. She has "retired" from her job but never filed the paperwork and is living solely on her military survivor benefits from her deceased husband. I tried to handle that but no one will call me back. She has not been eating very much and REFUSES to go to the doctor. Within the last week she has stopped eating (she says she is but clearly she is not) she is not feeding her cats AND she hasn't been drinking either. We have stepped in but she is fighting us tooth and nail. She wants to die. How can we just sit back and let her do this? My husband is going to talk to her tonight and give her an ultimatum of going to a doctor or us taking action. Now mind you she refuses to do her will which means we have no say in her health care. We feel like our hands are tied. Any advice would be great! Do we step back and let her do what she wants or force the situation?