Some background about her, she is 65 years old, has had issues with hypertension throughout her life until 11 years ago, one day she forgot to take her medication and she had a stroke. She survived but that left half of her body paralyzed. We were informed that with massages and excersizing there was a chance that she'd get back control of her left arm and leg but she always refused to get proper massages and refused our attempts to get her to engage in physical activities. So at this point, her left arm and leg are gone.
To the issue at hand, it's been a week now that her left hand is very swollen and has changed in color to dark-ish pink, almost purple at some spots. We immediately called a doctor (we didn't want to put her through the trouble of transportation and being in a place that isn't home, since that stresses her out) specializing in neurology, then another one in dermatology, a surgeon and then another more general purpose one. One of them claimed it was inflammation, another claimed it was rheumatism, the surgeon said it was bacteria, the other one said that it was her diabetes causing it. We got the medication they suggested for all three of those. Aside from her diabetes which has slightly gone down but seems stuck now (at a high level), her hand and leg haven't changed, however today her right eye was almost bloodshot and she has red-ish splotches on her right hand. Also her right ear seems a bit swollen too now.
What worries me even more is her behavior has kind of changed.. She mostly lays down and tries to sleep, her apetite has kind of gone down (this worries me the most as she loves food), she isn't as talkative as she used to be.
I'm really, really worried that she might be in her end days and I'm more than mad that every single doctor we're getting gives us a different possible cause and they don't seem to be able to nail down what's going on, we're getting her to a hospital tomorrow (hopefully) even though we're worried about the strain that getting her transported will cause but it feels like we have no other choice.
I'm posting here cause I don't know where else to go at this point with how unreliable doctors seem to be, the stress and worry might as well be eating me up alive, that's how I feel. Perhaps any of you have/have had elderly relatives that show/showed such symptoms? If you do/did, please share your stories, how it went, maybe some advice if you can. I really need all the help I can get, I don't want to lose my grandmother.
Also to the moderators, I'm sorry if this is the wrong type of post or the wrong place to post it.