A little background: My father always had an optimistic personality, and was the type of person who never met a stranger. He is diabetic, has congestive heart failure, and extreme issues with peripheral neuropathy and lack of circulation in his feet. Mentally he seems to be slipping occasionally, and we have noticed some changes to his personality since he has been in the nursing home. Unknown to the family, the doctor took him off his anti-depressants when he first checked in 4 months ago.
He has to take a large dosage of Lasik due to health issues which makes him urinate often. Since he is in a wheelchair it is hard for him to make it to the bathroom in time, so he has a "pee jar" beside his chair to use. When he is wearing diapers, he says he can't move the diapers and his pants out of the way in time and wets himself, so he prefers to sit without pants and underwear with just a towel or blanket over his legs. When he does get dressed to leave his room, he prefers to go "commando" because he says the diaper doesn't hold it all and if he has an accident it won't help. My sister is washing his urine soaked clothes every other day - full loads - of towels, pants, etc. When we take him out on Sunday, we bring a change of clothes and cross our fingers that he won't mess his pants while we are at a restaurant. However it has happened on the way back in the car many times, which entails cleaning up the car and my father, which doesn't seem to bother him. Though we don't make a big deal out of it, since we try not to embarrass him. He has been so depressed and cries every time we leave him, so we have been afraid to nag him too much. We have spoken to the on-call doctor about his depression and he is slowly raising his anti-depression medication back to what it was -- prior to his removing it without consulting with us !!!
But how can I talk this man into wearing diapers???
Normally he can be reasoned with in all things. I am dumbfounded that he won't budge on this one. I'm sure it has to do with his male pride, but I will take any and all ideas. Help, please ?? !!!