He has lived with us since before my mom passed in 2014. He isn’t as sharp as he used to be but mostly is just mean. He is negative and unpleasant to be around a lot of the time. He manages his own bank account and credit card ect. He will not agree to placement or dr appts very often either. So far he manages around the house, I clean and drive him where he wants to go. He cooks for himself because mine is too rich or salty, or upsets his stomach in some way. I did talk him into medical cannabis which has helped his back and hip pain. He has neuropathy so his balance is bad and has a lot of nerve pain. This situation puts a lot of strain on me, my husband and daughter.since He will not agree to placement, it would be by force. My brother lives states away and does not help at all. I feel like maybe I should have POA but he doesn’t. I am executer of his will only. I can’t force him to do the things people on this site suggest. What Can I do?
You just have to make sure that you don't allow the hospital to talk you into taking him back home with promises of all they can do for him/you, as they're all lies.
So get the line "he's an unsafe discharge" down pat until it rolls off your tongue easily, and get him placed.
And don't worry, at 92 there's bound to be an emergency right around the corner.
You are left with one choice. Your father, given you took him into your home is now a renter there. You would have to evict him. I would sit him down and let him know that living with you is not working and he will have to leave. I would tell him I would help him find a room or a studio somewhere, but that he would otherwise be evicted.
You would require an attorney to do an eviction. Sorry, those are the real facts; there aren't many choices when you made the choice to take in an elder you now don't wish to live with.