My mother lives next door to me. She was a heavy wine drinker and smoker. We started watering down her wine, and eventually she forgot she drank wine at all about three months ago. This was a huge win. She continued to smoke.
She is 93, and I am not concerned for her smoking for health reasons, but am for safety reasons. I have walked in and found her asleep with an unlit cigarette in her hand. She now falls asleep more and more often.
About a month ago, she seemed to have forgotten she smoked. We were thrilled. But the last four days, in the afternoon or early evening, she decides to walk out and buy cigarettes. She has walked out and wandered for 1 1/2 hours. We are not sure where she is going, but so far has not purchased cigarettes.
I don't know if I should give her cigarettes to keep her home, or let her wander. I worry when she is out if she gets lost, or falls and injures herself.
At this point she lives in her apartment, but since I am next door, I take care of her food, shopping, getting her to any needed apointments. The last few months she has seemed to move further along the continuum - sleeping more, unable to even feign concentration on reading or watching tv.
I don't know if I have to insist on having someone come to stay with her now. Or if I should just supply cigarettes.