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Mom died then returned. Has anyone experienced this?

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My 91 year old mom passed out, the death rattle kicked in, she then yawned several times, then death rattle. Her skin became ice cold, her face pale, lips blue and then incontinence. 30 seconds later she took a deep breath but remained unconscious for 30 min. Suddenly she opened her eyes and asked "where am i".

Has anyone experienced this? I feel as of I had a death trial run. Scared me- oh how emotional. Hospice is on way to help assess what happened.

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Yes that happened to me. Had a near death experience. I am alive to tell it. I was revived. I remember it oddly though. I am glad I remember. I don't want to repeat all that, though!
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In the final stages my mother utter 2 things when we thought she was unconscious. One to me "Tuck in your shirt." The other to my brother, "Why are you laughing?" These pronouncements were very clear and appropriate. It was kind of shocking.
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To nanso1940...?? am I missing something?
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SherriJean -

I think your comment about hospice was fine. You summed up the gratitude that many of us have about the help and support many of us have had from hospice when our loved ones were at the end of their journeys.
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This is a very frightening thing...I had been babysitting lil Aubrey...who was a preemie..ever since she came home from the hospital with oxygen and monitors..it was a close bound between us..I pushed her thro multiple therapies...it took forever but she did progress...one am I was waiting for her to wake up ..I heard her stir..I usually gave her a few minutes to wake up..but this day..something told me to just go get her up..she was 21/2...long story short..as I walked in..she cried out..fell backwards..and began to seize...Then became still I grabbed her up..started screaming at her to Come back...starting CPR...she was blue and cold...thank God..I was screaming...Aubrey you come back! After we took her to the hospital...she clung to me...her parents didn't like it..the nurses all thought I was her mom...later on she said...Aunt Sheri was screaming at me! I know that by the grace of God she did survive...our bond is for a lifetime..
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SheriJean, I am sorry you had a bad experience. I promise you, that if you stay with us, you will be glad you did. This site has gotten me through some really rough times. Give it another chance.
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Yes I have. If you would have taken her blood pressure you would more than likely heard that she wasn't dead. As the disease progresses this happens more and more. You can pinch them put wter in their face and no flinches but certainly not dead.
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Oh yes! Yes indeed! I have had an out of body experienced a near death experience before, and so did a friend of mine a long time ago. In fact, I recall a time when a family member of that friend came to me and told me that her friend was on her deathbed because her liver shut down. We all thought she was a goner. After I came home from seeing her, I was writing a letter to another friend and telling him about the experience when I saw a flash of light by my desk about 9:30 that night. Little did I know, she was actually about to be rerouted from death through an out of body experience. I was actually shocked when I went in the next day expecting the worst, only to walk in and see her sitting up in her chair with her bed made as though nothing ever happened! Having heard of an experienced near death experience as before, I already knew my friend had a story to tell because I already knew she visited the other side. I was able to get it out of her, and here's what she shared:

My friend said that she visited heaven and saw God. She also saw her daughter (who was also a friend of mine). I forgot what all was said and done during her visit with her daughter, but I do know that she said God told her she supposed to live a while longer. She ended up living about another five months afterward. Most nursing home staff were convinced it was a miracle but there were a few who didn't believe it. I'm hoping that those who knew it was a miracle actually came to God through this miracle. I'll see my friend and her daughter again. I must say that I hope that neither of them suffered on the way out at that moment of death, because I would never want that to happen to anyone at that moment. Death is eminent, and I would never want to see anyone suffer at that moment. I was not there when either of my friends passed away, but I hope it was a painlessly easy one for them when it happened
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Nanso1940. I must be missing something. No need for unkindness on this site. We have enough to deal with.
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SheriJean--so sorry you cried. This is supposed to be a support group so when someone intentionally or unintentionally says something unkind it just plain hurts. Easy to feel vulnerable and rejected. I do believe, though, that almost everyone who writes in is trying very hard to be helpful. I have benefitted so much from the advice I received. Hang in there and don't leave!

Also, I really appreciate hearing about near death experiences. I have read so much about them and find the possibilities fascinating!
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