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My 91 year old mom passed out, the death rattle kicked in, she then yawned several times, then death rattle. Her skin became ice cold, her face pale, lips blue and then incontinence. 30 seconds later she took a deep breath but remained unconscious for 30 min. Suddenly she opened her eyes and asked "where am i".

Has anyone experienced this? I feel as of I had a death trial run. Scared me- oh how emotional. Hospice is on way to help assess what happened.

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In July 2015 my 94 year old mother (who has dementia and is in a care home) was taken to the Accident and Emergency as she hadn't been well when she became unconscious and was rushed to the Resuscitation Unit. By the time I got there she was fading fast and the doctor took me into the 'Bereavement Room' to explain that the situation was very grave and although they would do everything to save her she may not survive. I had to make the decision that if they failed, they should not continue to resuscitate her.

I said my goodbyes to my Mum - I could see she had died and my heart felt as if it had dropped to the ground; I stared at her and felt so very sad that she had really gone. Then the doctors continued the resuscitation process; after several minutes (I'm not sure how long), my mother suddenly opened her eyes - she was here again. My emotions were in disarray; although I was happy, I had been in shock and had begun the grieving process and acceptance that she had gone. The whole experience shook me up emotionally and physically. My mother is still with us, but has deteriorated mentally and it is very difficult to communicate with her as she sees and talks to people who are not there, but they are very real to her; sadly these conversations are very negative, so she is usually quite anxious.

It took some time for me to come to terms with the emotional and physical effects of this experience. But my heart goes out to my Mum who cannot tell me of her experience and what she is going thru' now. I can only be there for her by her side.
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So sorry for you. This did not happen to my late Mother and I am glad because she would not like the new body she was in!
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The rest of us are here for you.
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I'm giving nanso the benefit of doubt...that it was confusion over me correcting my Own spelling...I just felt vulnerable and confused over what I had done that would prompt that response...it hurt...a lesson in guarding my speech at all times
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SheriJean, I am sorry you had a bad experience. I promise you, that if you stay with us, you will be glad you did. This site has gotten me through some really rough times. Give it another chance.
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SheriJean--so sorry you cried. This is supposed to be a support group so when someone intentionally or unintentionally says something unkind it just plain hurts. Easy to feel vulnerable and rejected. I do believe, though, that almost everyone who writes in is trying very hard to be helpful. I have benefitted so much from the advice I received. Hang in there and don't leave!

Also, I really appreciate hearing about near death experiences. I have read so much about them and find the possibilities fascinating!
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Oh well....guess I was due for a good cry
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Sheri - Please don't feel hurt (even though I know just how you feel!) Nanso1940 was trying to protect you from that mean person who was criticizing your typing errors. She didn't notice that they were the same person! Take a deep breath and relax. We all love you both.
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So..I won't be returning to this site...thanks for those that were kind..I wish everyone well...
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Smcbeth1--I agree with what you said. This site needs people to respond encouragingly and kindly because we are all dealing with many stressors. This site should be a safe haven, and a nurturing one. I am hoping there was just some confusion along the way here. I noticed that in another discussion, the question asker did not feel supported, and I didn't blame her. So, as the mantra goes, "If you don't have anything nice to say..."
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Ouch.....maybe I shouldn't be on this site...I was correcting my own spelling...I would never presume to correct another...feeling hurt
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Awe, Nanso1940 is probably dying of embarrassment because she didn't see the original message was from Sherri Jean and subsequently corrected herself.

Depending on what device you use, you might have problems reading the message.
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Nanso1940. I must be missing something. No need for unkindness on this site. We have enough to deal with.
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SherriJean -

I think your comment about hospice was fine. You summed up the gratitude that many of us have about the help and support many of us have had from hospice when our loved ones were at the end of their journeys.
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Oh yes, I forgot to say that my friend wants me to carry her story for her. I think she knew she would never get out of the nursing home alive. I'm happy to carry her story and I was especially excited at the miracle because usually get in the medical field everyone knows that when a liver shuts down you're done. This was truly a miracle
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Oh yes! Yes indeed! I have had an out of body experienced a near death experience before, and so did a friend of mine a long time ago. In fact, I recall a time when a family member of that friend came to me and told me that her friend was on her deathbed because her liver shut down. We all thought she was a goner. After I came home from seeing her, I was writing a letter to another friend and telling him about the experience when I saw a flash of light by my desk about 9:30 that night. Little did I know, she was actually about to be rerouted from death through an out of body experience. I was actually shocked when I went in the next day expecting the worst, only to walk in and see her sitting up in her chair with her bed made as though nothing ever happened! Having heard of an experienced near death experience as before, I already knew my friend had a story to tell because I already knew she visited the other side. I was able to get it out of her, and here's what she shared:

My friend said that she visited heaven and saw God. She also saw her daughter (who was also a friend of mine). I forgot what all was said and done during her visit with her daughter, but I do know that she said God told her she supposed to live a while longer. She ended up living about another five months afterward. Most nursing home staff were convinced it was a miracle but there were a few who didn't believe it. I'm hoping that those who knew it was a miracle actually came to God through this miracle. I'll see my friend and her daughter again. I must say that I hope that neither of them suffered on the way out at that moment of death, because I would never want that to happen to anyone at that moment. Death is eminent, and I would never want to see anyone suffer at that moment. I was not there when either of my friends passed away, but I hope it was a painlessly easy one for them when it happened
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GrannieAnnie, I do believe we must have missed something.
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Sounds like she had a seizure. All symptoms of seizures are not the typical. Rest assured she did not 'die' and self-revive. She needs a medical work-up ASAP.
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Yes that happened to me. Had a near death experience. I am alive to tell it. I was revived. I remember it oddly though. I am glad I remember. I don't want to repeat all that, though!
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To nanso1940...?? am I missing something?
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SherriJean - Really? Was that necessary? We all knew what she meant. Are you sure you really need to be participating in this site? Please leave. Thank you.
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In the final stages my mother utter 2 things when we thought she was unconscious. One to me "Tuck in your shirt." The other to my brother, "Why are you laughing?" These pronouncements were very clear and appropriate. It was kind of shocking.
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Oh...Hospice is awesome! Very supportive...in every way! God bless!
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Oops...bond not bound...
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This is a very frightening thing...I had been babysitting lil Aubrey...who was a preemie..ever since she came home from the hospital with oxygen and monitors..it was a close bound between us..I pushed her thro multiple therapies...it took forever but she did progress...one am I was waiting for her to wake up ..I heard her stir..I usually gave her a few minutes to wake up..but this day..something told me to just go get her up..she was 21/2...long story short..as I walked in..she cried out..fell backwards..and began to seize...Then became still I grabbed her up..started screaming at her to Come back...starting CPR...she was blue and cold...thank God..I was screaming...Aubrey you come back! After we took her to the hospital...she clung to me...her parents didn't like it..the nurses all thought I was her mom...later on she said...Aunt Sheri was screaming at me! I know that by the grace of God she did survive...our bond is for a lifetime..
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The firing in the brain takes a break so to speak
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Yes I have. If you would have taken her blood pressure you would more than likely heard that she wasn't dead. As the disease progresses this happens more and more. You can pinch them put wter in their face and no flinches but certainly not dead.
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I'm so sorry you're going through this, and glad that hospice will evaluate.
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