I am her FPOA and MPOA, but she is still able to make her own decisions although they are not healthy ones. I do not want to make her choose between her children, but I also feel I cannot continue to come and clean her house with him there. There relationship is very deeply seeded co-dependent/enabling. My brother her manipulates continually. He has no job, she is supporting him totally financially and emotionally He is a 60 y/o professor who has been fired from every job he has ever had. How do I find a safe balance?