Is this a will or not? What do I do? -

Is this a will or not? What do I do?


My grandma has a conservator and gaurdian but when I was boxing up all her paperwork from house I found a purple book with my grandparents name and what they want to wear at their funeral, what music they want played, and in my grandpa's hand writing it says "" IF MY WIFE CANT MAKE DECISIONS ON HER OWN I APPOINT JOHN DOE TO MAKE DECISIONS FOR HER" BUT her conservator and gaurdian ignored me again and didn't wanna hear it and still haven't asked for it what do I do ? Also my grandma is a wife to a World War 2 veteran private first class who passed 15 years ago



If anything, it shows their wishes concerning their funerals and guardian should follow them. Why a guardian and a conservator?
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Reply to JoAnn29

Medinas, the book and "appointment" don't qualify as a will for many reasons, not the least of which is that no disposition is addressed of assets. I think though that you were asking if the sentence constituted a POA or DPOA. As CM wrote, only the individual can appoint someone to act for him or her.

I'm not sure that her husband's Veteran status has any bearing on who acts as proxy, whether it's a guardian or conservator. However, I don't know all the ramifications of someone who might act on behalf of a Veteran's widow.

Are you asking about getting care, or getting an alternate guardian or conservator through the VA?
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Reply to GardenArtist

To me it sounds like Grandpa was referring to Grandma making decisions regarding selections for the funerals. Didn't sound like he was trying to appoint a POA for any sort of care.
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Reply to OldSailor

Your grandfather had no legal authority to appoint someone to make decisions for his wife. End of story.

But okay, I'll bite...

Who is John Doe? - what is this person's relationship with your late grandfather and your grandma? Is John Doe dissatisfied with current arrangements for your grandmother? Would John Doe even want to be involved in or responsible for her wellbeing?

And who is/are the conservator and guardian? Do you have any issue with the job they're doing?
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Reply to Countrymouse

Are you your grandma’s only living relative? If not, you need to get other family members together, show them the book and then go as a group to the guardian. Keep in mind that this book is not legally binding.
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Reply to Ahmijoy