I gave my mom a note at the assisted living telling her “I’m not doing this anymore until I get compensated.” Guess what? The phone ain’t ringing so I haven’t even been to see her to discuss it - in 3 months. I’ve dropped off a few things - never got a response so I am truly at the point in NO CONTACT where it’s going to hurt. I can’t see my mom and it was a choice of my own making.
I’ve realized that while I’m very happy Mom finally moved to live close to me, it is all too late. She’s under the watchful eye of staff at AL, plus my brother and his wife though none of them are addressing her diagnosis of dementia as far as I know. It’s gotten uncomfortable for me to be involved because I did renounce a HCPOA over my mom in 2016 after hip fracture and placement in Independent Living and he removed her back to her own home to live alone. That made him agent #2 HCPOA and now he’s using it like a sword. Seriously it has gotten too uncomfortable for me to even visit my mom at AL. And painful knowing that he is completely manipulating her, isolating her, depriving her (because he is stingy with her money) - reminder due to Covid she can’t get to a bank - so I doubt she ever gets a meal out. I was doing all these things for her - until they wouldn’t pay me back, until the job got harder because she is so close by - I naturally did so I miss her but the reality is she has positioned my brother to inherit/receive everything. It’s like she doesn’t even have two other children.
This is emotionally painful and I wish my son was here to receive his share of my estate but he passed away. So it’s like being treated like you are dead to them (dysfunctional family).