The Golden Rule: ethical conduct - do unto others as you would have them do unto you.
I get that there are parent / child / sibling / in law strife and stress. All relationships take work in my opinion. I have worked hard at mending and growing my relationship with my mom over the years. Mending only because we all hurt each other at times - words & actions or lack of both. My personality is to move forward always thinking about how I would want and desire my kids to respond and keep up with me as I age. I want to do that for my mom (and did when my dad was alive as well) in spite of any problems ie life that has happened along the way. I guess I think of the golden rule as love. I live close to my mom who is trying to stay independent - and I help her physically with many things - groceries/driving/washing clothes and visiting - to just spend time with her as I can. Because I live close and choose to do what I can - I totally do not expect my sibling to do what I do BUT for the life of me - as the days tick by with no call or text from my sibling to our mom - I wonder if once my sibling is 80, immobile and a lonely widow if she will expect her children to tenderly be involved in her life - even to just cheer her up one day. Maybe people don't relate how they answer or don't answer the call of the golden rule to what they expect on others for themselves. For now - I continue on and know that even with all I do my children are watching and will make that choice for themselves one day. I hope they choose to follow the Golden Rule.
Rant over, thanks for reading.