My husband and I are currently saving up for a house, so we, unfortunately, have to live with our in-laws. It’s been a nightmare to say the least because his mother is an agonizing woman to live with. She is not a nice person by any means, but not the point. For the 14 years that I’ve known her, she’s been in moderate health. She’s overweight and constantly eats fried/greasy food, but she’s been pretty stable for the most part. Recently, however, her health has started to decline. It started about two months ago, maybe a little more. My husband and I were asleep and we heard a loud thud. When we opened the door to check what had happened, his mom was on the floor of the bathroom, she had fallen off the toilet. Ever since then, I think she’s been afraid to put herself high up because she hasn’t slept in her bed for this entire time. She sleeps on the couch now. Among other things, her ankles and legs have become severely swollen. For a little while, she did nothing to remedy this, she just continued to sit on the couch, didn’t and still doesn’t walk around. She recently went to the doctor and was put on HBP medication and frequently uses the bathroom because of this, which is expected. She also poops quite a bit, on the same level as someone who possibly has Chron’s disease. She hasn’t been diagnosed with this, but she wouldn’t go to the doctor to find out anyway. A few weeks ago, because of her bad ankles and legs, she fell out of the tub. I’m pregnant, therefore unable to lift her so I have to call on my husband or FIL to help, but this is a pretty consistent thing now. She walks around the house with no pants on, just a shirt that barely covers her bum, she is constantly leaving poop on the toilet and along the path from the bathroom to her couch, she does not clean it up, and she knows it’s there. Or at least I think she does. Just today, she pooped all over the toilet and floor plus left a piece of toilet paper with her feces on it IN THE SINK. She’ll leave paper towels all over, she hardly eats anything, she’s starting to leave food (milk and fridge items) on the counter, etc. She’s still mean as can be, she’ll yell at you over everything, which has not changed since I’ve known her, she’s very negative. Call me horrible, but I couldn’t care less about her, I’ll help out with her when I can, but she is the mother of my husband and he loves her, so I’m curious for his sake. I don't want anything bad to happen to her, maybe we can get her help somehow. I’ve looked up dementia symptoms and it seems that she has some of them (like incontinence and not being able to do a lot of things because of her legs), but I don’t know if it’s due to being older or if this is a progressing problem. She wouldn’t ask a Dr about it regardless, so maybe someone who knows of a parent/family member who has had similar symptoms can shed some light on this?