My mom has been caring for my Dad for ten years (the last 3 with my help.) He was a stroke survivor and passed in January. About a year ago, we moved him to a Board & Care and she moved in with my brother (which she begged us to do.) She wouldn't allow more hours for caregivers (she didn't trust them) so he needed to move to receive the help he needed. Dad commented that Mom has MCI and I realized she wasn't even giving him his meds (he had a seizure because of it.) She got lost a few times so we decided to take the car. Her doctor has given her a diagnosis of dementia.
When she moved in with my brother she accused him, my sister-in-law and my niece of all kinds of ridiculous things. She begged me to move her to an Assisted Living that I'd shown her. We moved her at the beginning of this year and she constantly texts us that she's bored, depressed, and wants to be with family. When she is with us, she spends all her time in her room or asking the same questions over and over and she hates when we go out. She fills our voicemails with calls about us being mean. I should mention that when I'm not working I see her two to three times a week (doctors appointments) and my brother and sister are there every weekend. She seems like she's trying to manipulate us as she complains about one child to another. It's exhausting.