She calls mostly my brother who is POA. Mom who is now 90 was diagnosed with dementia has been in assisted living for a year and still wants to go home. She also suffers from chronic UTI and has to wear Depends. She has been a widow since 2011. She was not taking care of herself living alone and became unhealthy and really forgetful which is why she is where she is. She refuses to participate in any of the activities at the facility. All she seems to do is sit by the phone and call, up to 20 times in an hour, and say she is going home. My brother calls her every morning, and my sister calls her frequently. Sometimes Mom is positive, sometimes really negative. I think it is Sundowning. I don't call her as often.
My question is, do these calls really help her? She has plenty of visitors that stop and see her, one of her good friends from her home town lives there. Her sister lives in the same town as the facility so Mom is not isolated except in her own mind. She will forget that people come and see her.
She seems OK some of the time, but mostly talking to her and being around her is like a roller coaster ride. I know she can't help it and I love Mom, but it is so hard for me to relate to her.