She lives with me in NC. Due to her diabetes, I have my mom on a meal schedule, count her carbs, test her blood sugar and give her insulin, and make sure she takes her medication. I have healthy high protein, low carb snacks for her close by. She is prone to UTIs due to her urethra not closing at all, and poor hygiene, and pressure sores because her arthritis makes it painful for her to walk so she will not move around enough, and fungal infections because it is a struggle to get her to bathe. My mother will raid the refrigerator at all hours, drinking a couple of glasses of milk at a time, eating a quart of yogurt in one sitting, etcetera, which sends her blood sugar soaring and all that sugar feeds the fungal and bacterial infections that she is prone to getting.
There is absolutely NO money for a decent nursing home, though her doctor says its getting to that point because she is so resistant to following medical advice. My mom is dead set against a nursing home, and with the lack of funds I can only imagine the sort of place she might wind up. It is getting to the point where if she doesn't comply, the doctor might take steps to take that decision from her. So, is it ok for me to install a lock on the refrigerator to keep her on track for her health? I have tried talking to her, explaining about drinking too much milk and overeating, and she would just snack and eat all day long and get no exercise if I didn't keep my eye on things.
I do have to work, and when I am out of the house ,all bets are off. There is no money for any sort of home health assistance, so I really need to keep her from raiding the refrigerator when I'm at work. I really cringe at the thought of locking the refrigerator but I need ingredients on hand to cook for us, and if I don't prevent her access to it, there is no controlling her blood sugar and helping to prevent the subsequent infections that come from it being too high. Another concern is that when I tell her that her blood sugar is too high, on occasion, she has gotten her insulin from the refrigerator and given herself 60 or 90 units to bring it down, and I am concerned about that, though lately she's been forgetting how to fill a syringe, so that's not the danger it once was.
When her doctor mentioned a nursing home, she got better about regular meal times and bathing, and for about a week, that's been ok, but the snacking continues and I'm having trouble steadying her blood sugar. I'm hoping with a few more weeks of regularly scheduled meals 3 times a day and a couple of low carb snacks, her urge to snack incessantly will stop. She eats when she's bored, and spends all her time on the Internet, so if the Internet goes out or she gets confused and can't remember how to log in, she gets bored and just eats and eats. If we could get her a new prescription for reading glasses, she would read books when she can't get online, but with her blood sugar up and down so much, new glasses would be useless because her vision changes from week to week based on her blood sugar and its effect on her eyes.
I feel like some sort of monster for even asking about the legalities of locking the refrigerator, that seems like such a horrible thing to do. I just don't know how else to keep her on track with her meals and blood sugar control and now that she's afraid of a nursing home after her doctor spoke to her about that two weeks ago, she is more willing to be compliant with her treatment but the snacking is a long ingrained habit.