Hi all, I am the one who posted a week and a half or so about some water damage that we had. We got a lot of rain in a short period of time, which filled our patio and overflowed into my father's patio. Then the sump pump broke. Yeah, that's me. :)
So everything seems to be getting back to normal. Mom and i found out that Dad actually saw the water level in the patio getting up to the point where it was time to take steps that might have prevented the flooding. When he saw it, he didn't say anything to us.
Dad has always been the "strong, silent type" and not always great about speaking up when it's time. Men are also generally not great communicators - no offense to my male friends on here. Mom probably asked him about it but I can't remember or didn't hear his answer. Mom and i are not making a big deal about this (Mom is also very protective of Dad). but I wonder if this is a "wake up call." Dad did have a recent doctor visit where he said "they gave me one of those Alzheimer's test and i passed with flying colors." ( I assumes that that is where they give you the three words and ask you to remember then, and then ask several more questions, then go back and ask you the three words.) He is declining (he is 83) but sometimes it's hard to tell how much and how because Mom over anticipates (enables?) in the way she takes care of him.
Do I tell him or not? I can guarantee you if I tell him that this water damage was his fault (no i would not word it like that) because he didn't speak up, he will feel very bad and be very hard on himself. We also racked up some bills due to the clean up. I don't think telling him will necessarily help anything, BUT if this is a wake up call, I need to start being a little more involved in his care, as well as including my brother and sister. Thoughts?
also I'm going to write a different post which won't be a question - it'll be titled suggestion - self care. Please read. thanks!