I’m a full time RN, wife and mother of 3. I work all day, then come home to take care is my mom. My husband is disabled and cares for her while I’m gone, as well as takes care of our 6 month old.
My mom had a bad stroke 4 years ago with left sided deficits. She then had lung cancer and went through chemo which got it all. They did prophylactic radiation to the brain, which made her mental state and mobility a lot worse. She had another small stroke and went to in patient rehab and was recently discharged back home.
She basically refuses to do anything for herself anymore. She has fallen before, and instead of asking for help, she has stayed in her bed. Won’t get up to go to the bathroom. Uses briefs, and throws them on her floor. The smell of urine from her room is beyond awful. I asked her what was going on, and she basically lied when I asked her if she’s been getting up to go
to the bathroom. I know it’s embarrassing, but I just don’t understand how she thinks this is okay to do.
I have been in tears because this is my mom, but I don’t know what to do from here. She’s just refusing to care for herself and is content to soil herself and do nothing about it.