*I want to stay home*. I get that.. but what does the *as long as I can* actually look like?
Not being able to shower or dress? Collect shopping? Prepare meals? Can get Aides to visit for that.
Not able to change soiled continance aides? Put rubbish out, clean up? Yuk but not life threatening. Can wait for next Aide visit.
Not being able to get out of bed to let the Aide in the door to do these things?
I think we've crossed that line of *as long as I can* now. She just doesn't get it.
So my question is: is there a list from APS (or Human Services or wherever) of minimum standards to stay living alone? I found a hospital discharge questionaire but have lost it - inc ADLs, falls risk, poly meds.
I have advised her Doctor, had an OT assessment done. Both recommend assisted living (ignored). Suggested a key box (refused). Calls ambulance when fallen but keeps refusing to be taken to hospital.