I drive 4 hours daily to do so. I want my mom closer not farther from me. How do I get a third party mediator to symbol this and make a good decision for my mom?
Does your brother have POA? Does he understand you cannot care for Mom in this way if you have to continue to care for her in this way? Do you have any relationship with your bro? Mediation options (Thanks again, Geaton for this info): Mediate.com APFMnet.org (academy of professional family mediators). ACRNet.org (assn for conflict resolution)
It is heartbreaking when siblings become opponents. Have you and your brother always been at odds concerning care for your mother?
My own family has always been able to place Loved Ones near enough to their caregivers so that frequent visits were convenient. Unfortunately, the current health crisis has made decision making so much more difficult that may of us have been placed in situations beyond our control.
If your mother designated Power of Attorney to your brother, she granted legal authority to him to make the best decisions available to him to keep her safe and comfortable if she became unable to make decisions for herself.
Were you and your brother communicating more when your mother’s current placement was chosen? Do you know why he chose that placement for her? What caused you to become her daily companion? Why do you feel that you must be with her as match time as you are putting in? Are you and your brother communicating in any way right now?
What do you expect would happen if you were to involve a mediator?
If you are able to do so, are you willing to seek a lawyer’s advice about how to move forward?
Mediation options (Thanks again, Geaton for this info):
Mediate.com
APFMnet.org (academy of professional family mediators).
ACRNet.org (assn for conflict resolution)
Are you providing all of this care with the agreement of your brother, or despite it? Surely he didn't MAKE you do it?
My own family has always been able to place Loved Ones near enough to their caregivers so that frequent visits were convenient. Unfortunately, the current health crisis has made decision making so much more difficult that may of us have been placed in situations beyond our control.
If your mother designated Power of Attorney to your brother, she granted legal authority to him to make the best decisions available to him to keep her safe and comfortable if she became unable to make decisions for herself.
Were you and your brother communicating more when your mother’s current placement was chosen? Do you know why he chose that placement for her? What caused you to become her daily companion? Why do you feel that you must be with her as match time as you are putting in? Are you and your brother communicating in any way right now?
What do you expect would happen if you were to involve a mediator?
If you are able to do so, are you willing to seek a lawyer’s advice about how to move forward?
Does your brother have power of attorney for finances and health for your mom?
Can you tell us a little more about why mom needs full time care from you if she is in a NH?
What does mom want?