My mom is 68. No cognitive decline except for normal forgetfulness due to aging. She stage 3 lymphedema, weighs a little less than 300 lbs. She has been hospitalized 3 times in the last year, for congestive heart failure symptoms, but what happens is that the fluid builds up in her legs (because insurers & Medicare won’t cover the bandages she needs or compression garments), then the fluid builds up into her abdomen and thorax and makes the lungs and heart work too hard. Welcome congestive heart failure. Elevating her legs, she often does, as it helps some with the swelling, but she has such a hard time getting out of the chair because she has lots of pain in both knees, hips and low back due to severe arthritis. Her knees don’t really have any cartilage left. They are bone to bone. She takes Lasix for high blood pressure and to help regulate some of the swelling - it is a diuretic that lasts 6 hours so she needs to get up often, but she doesn’t. She continues to use OTC pads and has accidents daily. Then she leaves the clothes in the main bathtub making it impossible for others to use it and eventually the clothes get put into bags where the ammonia eats away at her clothes. She moves around very little now and she seems not to understand how important it is for her to use her legs pumps, maybe because after the massage-like process she doesn’t have anything to put on the upper legs to keep the legs from filling up again. She has more and more depression because of her health issues and is always cold (I read on the forums here that one caregiver bought her LO a heated blanket. If my mom isn’t too afraid that it will shock her, I think I might invest in one. Our electric bill is very high now. I am recovering from PTSD, am a one year cancer survivor and am in debt up to my eyeballs because I have had a spotty employment record due to depression, ADHD, anxiety, poor decision making and not enough living skills, work-life skills and coping skills. I’m improving now; started working 2 days per week last week and just finished a Coping Skills group, in addition I continue to see a therapist weekly for individual counseling. Medication helps also, since, I have to manage my pain levels, migraine, PMDD, and do the care giving, cooking and housework as much as I can when I am up to it. House needs some repairs, we have no dryer, washing all things she uses in an attempt not to wet the recliner when she has been sitting too long, like table cloths, towels, shirts, and paper towels, just ends up being more work & washing I need to do, more money going out, because I have to buy a host of laundry additives to get the ammonia smells out, (the urine smell is nauseating and doesn’t help my headaches) and then there is the time, since the clothes have to be soaked. Oh, and the fridge is leaking, the car I use, the driver’s door can’t be opened from the inside. Should I just buy the pads I think will work better? How do impress upon her that she needs to do the leg pumps everyday and use her c-pap every night and use her nebulizer. I will take any and all suggestions. The short stretch compression bandages she has are too narrow for use on the thighs. We have tried neoprene waist trimmer type things, but her legs have round masses on the inside and back of both legs (which have both been injured had had to be treated by wound care) so the waist trimmers often slide down and when she has her ‘accidents’ they really should be hand washed. Our sewing machine won’t work, but I am considering sewing some of the 4 or 6 in compression bandages together by hand with elastic thread, so it will make them 8 inches and/or 10 inches. What do you think? Last thing, my mom is very short - only 5 feet tall so bending over her large tummy and even wiping and bathing private areas is taxing. My counselor reminded me that she is at risk for UTI’s and skin damage from the incontinence issues. I will buy the two parts, one for the car door and the other for the fridge & fix them when I can. Any thoughts, suggestions or encouragement will be appreciated. Thanks for being supportive.