My dad is 84 years old with what I would say is moderate dementia. He scored a 13 on the last SLUMS test. Anyway, he’s always been a very good father to me and I thought he was a good man, but I have recently discovered he may not be and I don’t think I like him as a person very much. I repeat, I do love him. Over the last couple of years, as his caretaking needs have increased, I have spent more and more time with him. He says horrible racist, sexist, derogatory things. I knew about the racism, but I thought that was part of his past and he had changed since the birth of my biracial son 22 years ago! According to my other family his sexist and generally negative opinions of all non-white non-male people are not new, he’s been like this his entire life and I was simply never exposed to it before. So, now I have to avoid speaking to him about anything that has the potential to bring up any of these topics because it disgusts me to hear him speak that way. I have told him how I feel, reminded him of his biracial grandson and even argued with him to try and prove them wrong which is all a waste of time. So my question is… How have others Dealt with discovering that their parent is not the person they thought they were?