Try going to your state Web site and typing "aging" in the search box. That will lead you to links where hopefully you'll find some help. Every state is different. If your state has Area Agency of Aging help (check https://www.agingcare.com/Find-Senior-Care/Area-Agency-on-Aging/) they can also be helpful in giving you local tips.
I found this, if your father is a Veteran, this should help.
Veterans benefits to help subsidize the cost of Assisted Living One of the most misunderstood of all Veterans Affairs programs is the veteran's benefit for a non-service connected disability. There is a "pension program" available for individuals who are disabled due to the complexities of old age, and need assistance with activities of daily living. Basic activities of daily living (ADL's) include: bathing, dressing, grooming, incontinence care, transfer, ambulation, etc. Instrumental ADL's are items such as transportation, laundry, housekeeping and meal preparation. This VA benefit is also defined as an Aid and Attendance benefit, because an individual requires the regular aid (help) and attendance (presence) of another person in order to avoid the dangers and hazards incident to their daily living environment.
This Aid and Attendance benefit is available to a veteran or a widow or widower of a veteran. A married veteran can receive up to a maximum of $1,950 per month in benefits, a single veteran $1,644, and a widow or widower can receive up to $1,057 per month for the year 2010. Bridget
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Carol
Veterans benefits to help subsidize the cost of Assisted Living
One of the most misunderstood of all Veterans Affairs programs is the veteran's benefit for a non-service connected disability. There is a "pension program" available for individuals who are disabled due to the complexities of old age, and need assistance with activities of daily living. Basic activities of daily living (ADL's) include: bathing, dressing, grooming, incontinence care, transfer, ambulation, etc. Instrumental ADL's are items such as transportation, laundry, housekeeping and meal preparation. This VA benefit is also defined as an Aid and Attendance benefit, because an individual requires the regular aid (help) and attendance (presence) of another person in order to avoid the dangers and hazards incident to their daily living environment.
This Aid and Attendance benefit is available to a veteran or a widow or widower of a veteran. A married veteran can receive up to a maximum of $1,950 per month in benefits, a single veteran $1,644, and a widow or widower can receive up to $1,057 per month for the year 2010.
Bridget