I read about the sundowner syndrome, but how do I cope with it? ALWAYS the same things over and over again. Sometimes I try to change the subject but it does not always work. I do not know if he really understand what I am saying because he's asking things over and over again. Like where is the toilet ect. He is wearing disposible nappies and still want to go to the toilet. He then wet the toilet all over when I do not see him going there. Since yesterday he has weakened so much, that he mostly can not get up from a chair by himself. Even when he lay in bed, I have to pull him up from a lying position. It is hard for me because I have a bad back, knees and thumbs. When we had our pudding in the TV room yesterday, he sat on the small sofa, he slowly tipped over on his side and was lying there with his bowl in his hand. He could not get up into a sitting position on his own anymore. It is so sad! I used to take care of his parents since I was 25 years of age, and after they passed away - after 18 years of caregiving - at the ages of 88 (FIL) and 85 (MIL), I took care after my own Mom. Now I am taking care of him. He is 72 years and had a few small strokes and then developed Alz/Dimentia. I am 62 years now. I am alone and we do not have any children. It is so difficult for me to cope with this all.