How to talk to M-I-L about excessive drinking?
We just moved my M-I-L into independent living (and she's loving it! whew!). She had been living alone in a condo in Palm Springs where it is a ghost town in the summer. Very lonely, bored, not getting out (refusing to use the taxi account we go for her and we live 2 hours away and can only come once a week), sending the home health care companion away after 15 minutes. She was only eating junk food (if that), smoking two packs of cigarettes a day and drinking 5-6 "light" beers every day. You get the picture. Now she's getting regular (and good) meals, the smoking is drastically reduced because she can't smoke inside. But... the beer drinking continues. In addition to general health reasons, we fear that she's going to fall, break something (she only weighs 88 pounds and with very thin bone density) and then it's a race to the bottom. We don't expect she'll quit drinking completely but how can we bring up this subject, with love and support? As you can imagine, she gets very defensive when my husband (her son) talks about it. Any strategies for helping her reduce the number of beers at least? Like alternating one beer and one non-alcoholic beer? - I get that part of this is simply the habit of something cold to drink while watching tv. Thanks.