This is not the usual fare here, but it's been on my mind since my mother passed in May. Last month, a dear friend's mother passed, followed by an ex-bf of mine; and yesterday my uncle died. (I wasn't close to him at all, but I am close to my cousin, his daughter.)
I find myself thinking about my two daughters, 17 and 22, and how they will feel after I die, which hopefully won'y happen for a long time. Right now, of course, we are just living life, arguing sometimes, feeling warmly toward each other at other times, often ignoring each other entirely. It's a mixed bag of emotions and taking each other for granted. My kids can't live each day as if it's MY last, but sometimes I wish they would, when they're being especially vexing. Occasionally, they will roll their eyes at me and I'll say "you'll miss me when I'm gone!" That really annoys them. But I kind of mean it, because part of me fears that they won't miss me much.
Does one write something for them to read after one dies - something that says things that maybe couldn't be said in real life? Do you simply let your child off the hook and give them permission to not feel guilt?
What do those of you who've lost a parent wish they'd left for you to read, if anything?