My brother has had issues with me for the last 15 years or so. He is mean-spirited, critical, hostile and angry towards me, on and off. I think there is some deep seated issue(s) he has towards me, but I don't really know what exactly. He does not want to address what it is that bothers him and he just continues on this path of nastiness. He once made a comment that he was in therapy and the 2 people he had the biggest problem with was me and his son. Why me?? He is 6 years older than me and I have always been there to help him and have never been critical of him (and there is plenty). At present he is not talking to me, and in my presence he won't even look at me. He is now not spending any time with my mother and I am so upset about it. He used to come over every week and cook food for her (not for me as I was told many times even though I live here) and couldn't do enough for her. In the summer he got pissed off because of her "crazy" behavior and said that he will not come over anymore (I don't need the drama, and we are very negative people, etc.) I got mad and said some choice words to his crap, but felt bad and texted the next day with an apology. Like he would ever do the same. So, my mother injured herself and in 2 months he did not call once or come over to see her. Until a few days ago and he just shows up for some sort of obligatory Thanksgiving visit even though he had invited her over to his house when she was in rehab. He doesn't bother to ask her about Thanksgiving and just left (when I came into the room and tried to make convo with him). His live-in girlfriend is having all of her family over for Thanksgiving and he said that he wasn't going to do anything but sleep (cuz of recent surgery). I don't believe it and neither does my mother, He is probably having the holidays with her family. I just cannot believe he is acting this way towards her, he was never like this. It has been me really upset and hurt. This is the 1st holiday without my father which is hard enough and this is how he is acting. Every time he acts this way (usually towards me) it upsets me and takes about 3 days to get over it. I will no longer try to have a relationship with him anymore, but it breaks my heart how he is treating my mother. My family has always been dysfunctional but his behavior is only adding to it. It is like he just wants to cut us off from his life, with an occasional visit to my mother. I would never believe this would happen and I am heartbroken. The holidays are over as far as I am concerned.