My father lost his wife 2 years ago and has not been the same since. He has lost his will to live. He barely eats, he drinks wine all day, he sits in his chair and won't move except to use the bathroom or to fill his wine. He watches the news non-stop. He is so very depressed and he says so all the time. He tells me that he can't go on without her. I think the heavy drinking and not eating is his way of trying to end his life.
When he has had too much he stumbles and gets angry when I try to help him. He says "I am not a cripple, I can do it on my own". He gets angry when I try to slow him down on his drinking or when I try to get him to eat. He has lost all life inside of himself.
I want to get help to try to force him to get better. I am scared because I know he will be angry and he will want me to go away. His doctor says there is not a whole lot she can do until he harms himself or injures himself. I have all the legal documents in hand to take over his care. But is that the right thing to do?
Even if I do take over his care, I still cannot force him to see his doctor or eat, stop drinking, etc. Is there anything one can do to make them want to live again? I am struggling with this, I don't want to watch him kill himself but I know he is going to do it no matter what happens. How does one cope with that?