Hello all. I'm new here and have never been a part of a forum before. However, I am at my wits end. I really need some outside support. I'm 24 years old, I will be 25 this month. My mother is 56 years old. She has lived with uncontrolled type 2 diabetes, high blood pressure, sleep apnea, obesity since I was a child. In 2011 she had a stroke and hasn't walked or driven since and is wheelchair bound. She lives alone in an apartment. My sister and I have helped her over the years with errands, groceries, appointments, etc. She was also getting in home caregivers but half of them quit and half she fired because she didn't like the way they did things. She is now being taken off the program for non compliance. She won't answer the door to the caregivers, or return her social worker's phone calls. All she wants is for someone to bring her coke a cola, candy bars and potato chips daily. She gets very angry when we do not give in. She also now has congestive heart failure, kidney disease, and urinary incontinence. She cannot clean her own apartment. The smell of urine is overpowering and she leaves garbage around and dishes to mold. She has fecal incontinence at times as well. She is at risk of eviction next time the apartment manager comes to inspect, or when pest control comes out monthly. She is already on strike 2 with the apartment complex. They said one more violation of her lease and she's done. I've suggested she go to an assisted living facility. She does not want to and will not go into a nursing home and I don't want her to but i really want what is best for her. I don't want her to die sooner than later. She won't take insulin, try to eat healthy, or do anything good for herself. I've always tried to please mom and give in to make her happy but my recent deciding to change by not giving her the cola, or junk food has been a battle. I was her baby, her best kid, the only one she thought cared about her but now I have turned on her in her eyes. Any help or insight on these issues would be so appreciated. Thank you and God bless!