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I am so lost, my dad has dementia and his wife passed away last year. She did so much for him. We never even realized how bad it was. He lives alone and the dr will not deem him incompetent and he has seizures to to it. I do his meds for him and took his keys because of the seizures. I also grocery shop with him, take him to appointments. My brother and sister and I are all on his account but have no authority but see the overdrafts over 300.00 . He will not listen and walks to the corner to buy cigarettes and alcohol. I have tried every avenue with no help. I work in a skilled nursing facility as an occupational therapist, I have called a lawyer, social service for elderly, the dr himself and I get nothing but my dad mad at me , what do I do?

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First off, your father needs to appoint one of you as his medical and durable POA, before his dementia gets any worse, because otherwise the state will have control over him and his affairs, unless you apply for guardianship, which costs thousands of dollars. Secondly, if your dad is having seizures, drinking alcohol is the worst thing he can do, as that will override any seizure medications he's on, which in turn will trigger his seizures. My husband after his stroke, developed seizures, and early on he occasionally liked to have 1 beer in the evening, and guaranteed, just like clock work, the next morning he would have seizures. So we learned the hard way that he could never drink alcohol again.
If your father isn't going to listen to you or any of his children, then you may have to report him to APS, and let them figure out the best and next course of action. There are no easy answers. Wishing you the best.
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